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Some non-porn gay-oriented short films/videos that I really...
16.11.2013 , Tumblin w/ Hotties



Some non-porn gay-oriented short films/videos that I really think you should see.  Click the title below and the video page will open in another window:

*UPDATED*  - added 33 Teeth, Language of… and 13 Minutes - so if you’ve already liked this check out the three new films

Protect Me From What I Want (top picture) - One of my fav gay-themed short films. Saleem, an Indian student living in Leeds with his parents, meets Daz, a rent boy, and they have a night of mutually enjoyable sex. Saleem is nonetheless ashamed of what he has done…will he run from this new experience or has he entered a new world? Runs a little over 13 minutes.  Nudity warning…there is a sex scene and you see some naked butt. NSFW

Sir Rupert, The Knight - Cute rhyme about a little boy who dreams of being a knight and kissing the princess prince.  Runs a little over 3 minutes…well worth your time. No nudity, SFW.

Eu Năo Quero Voltar Sozinho (I Don’t Want to Go Back Alone) (second picture) - This short film is FANTASTIC. The arrival of a new student in school changes everything in Leonardo’s life. This 15 year-old blind teenager has to deal with the jealousy of his long-lasting friend Giovana while trying to figure out the feelings he found out he has for his new friend, Gabriel. English subtitles, runs a little over 17 minutes. No nudity, SFW.

The Morning After - The Morning After a drunken night out Harry’s (Joshua Berg) world is turned upside down when as he awakens to discover a naked man, Thom (Luke Striffler), in his bed. stunned and confused he tries to make sense of his repressed desires. In an attempt to re-assert his heterosexuality he revisits an old lover, Lucy (Juliet Lundholm), but finds little comfort from the encounter. Harry is left to make a decision: to follow his set path and return to his doting girlfriend Jess (Jane Alice), or attempt to understand his own wants and desires. Little over 15 minutes, well worth the time.  Warning: Nudity, NSFW

Thirteen or So Minutes - This amusing boy-meets-boy story introduces us to two young, attractive straight guys who act on the fact that they are incredibly attracted to one another. In the aftermath, one of them seems to have second thoughts…. Runs just shy of 14 minutes

33 Teeth - Eddie’s fascination with his older neighbor, Chad, heightens after he spies on him in the bathroom measuring his manhood. Runs almost 8 minutes.

The Language of Love - 17 year old Charlie struggles to find the words to be true to himself…and his best friend. A wry, delicate take on first love and awakening sexuality from a young man’s perspective.  The fear of realization and the unknown. Runs 9 and a half minutes

Love Trip - Very cute film with an adorable payoff at the end. No nudity, SFW.  Runs a little over 8 minutes.

Gay = Sin - Features the music of the incredible Sigur Ros. NSFW, brief nudity (naked butts)  

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16.11.2013 , Yes, please...
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Straight Guys Are Gay: Drunk Naked Guy Gets Spanked With His OWN BELT
16.11.2013 , Manhunt Daily

This beefy dude passed out on the lower bunk with no pants on (sounds like an invitation to me), and his buddies decided to strap his big white ass. My favorite part of this vid is when the spanked dude starts to sensuously massage his buttocks to relieve the sting of the strap. He really rubs those butt cheeks. I was waiting for him to creep a little toward the center of everything for a little finger-banging action. No such luck.

- J. Harvey

Watch “Drunk Naked Guy Gets Spanked With His Own Belt” below:

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In The OUT Door: OUT Celebrates Its OUT 100
16.11.2013 , boy culture
  9a Debbie Harry 10 Debbie Harry 11 Debbie Harry 12 Debbie Harry 13 Debbie Harry

Thursday night was the Out 100 party, celebrating Out Magazine's issue in which its editors honor 100 influential out figures from all walks, the most famous of which get the cover treatment. (This year, Edie Windsor, Jim Parsons, Lee Daniels and the very recently out Wentworth Miller made the cut.)

1 OUTThe in-crowd with Out.

I'd never been invited to this party before, and kept complaining and being told, "Next year!" Finally, I got the invite, so no way would I miss what Kenneth swears is the year's most fun party.

The venue is conducive to having a fun party with live acts (Debbie Harry was headlining, with Steve Grand, The Dolls and Charli XCX of Icona Pop fame supporting), but not so great for a red carpet. Still, Out did a nice job with a second-floor carpet, my only complaint being that the DJed party music drowned out the interviews somewhat.

I was surrounded by nice people, except for an inconsequential sourpuss who looked about 12 years old who was frowning his way through the night for ET, and being near sane individuals helps loads.

A Sharon-NeedlesSharon Needles: Gay as hay-ull.

The first person down the carpet was Sharon Needles, looking more glam (and alive) than ever. My question for everyone was to describe their best and worst coming-out experiences (see video above), but she said hers had all been good because she'd been "gay as hay-ull" since age 4 and had a supportive family who knew she liked dick. The most X-rated "awww!" ever.

B Lea-DeLariaLea DeLaria: Kid on the Hall.

Lea DeLaria, who is apparently on Orange is the New Black (I know...I need to watch), was remarkably short in her answer, but she felt very naughty saying her best was on Arsenio Hall's show and her worst was, "[Cough] Tonys."

C Jinkx-MonsoonJinkx was a late bloomer, coming out at...14???

Jinkx Monsoon is a cut above most drag queens—she's an artist with fake boobs, and there's a difference. Chatting with her was lovely as always. Her best experience was with her grandfather, who told her, "I don't understand everything you do, but I support everything you do."

D Michael-UrieUrie was the evening's Neil Patrick Harris.

Charming Michael Urie gave me a thoughtful coming-out answer, saying that he was most touched when a friend said, during their conversation, "I'm glad we're talking about this."

E Maulik-PancholyThis guy is almost 40???

I asked Maulik Pancholy off camera if he would mind commenting on Alec Baldwin. The recently out star of 30 Rock said he'd really rather not, but seemed grateful I warned him instead of springing it on him. I loved his coming-out story! His cousin, when they were both in college, simply said, "Do you want to meet my cadaver?" (She was a med student.)

F Paul-IaconoI'd love for Paul to be my G.B.F. Or just my F.B.

Adorable Paul Iacono was supersweet, reacting positively when I mentioned I knew the producer of his upcoming (surprisingly HILARIOUS) film G.B.F. and telling me his professional coming out was a highlight because it allows him to be himself, more so each day. I regret not getting to say hi to him again inside. He's a bright guy and has a lot of potential in film. And he needs to be accidentally touched inappropriately.

G Denis OHareDenis O'Hare recalled coming out in the bad old days.

A lot of the younger stars were saying they had smooth sailing coming out, something older gay people might find unimaginable. Denis O'Hare confessed his parents reacted nightmarishly, but at least his brother told him it was totally fine. O'Hare was also one of the only people of the night to concede that the issue of outing people in the media is complicated (most said no way to it), though he did say the thinks anti-gay politicians should be outed. (I've never liked that as the rule because it's punishment-based, whereas I think reporting on someone being gay is factual or gossipy, both things of which I approve.) Great guy to speak with.

I Brian-SimsThis guy has an even hotter twin???

I grabbed Pennsylvania Rep. Brian Sims, a gay Dem, to ask my most probing question of the night: How do you react to being called a sex symbol? I don't know where, but I thought I'd heard he was uncomfy with it. Wrong! He was charmingly bashful, but admitted that he eats it up. Anyone who finds him bear-adjacent will love that he said while he felt less good-looking than his twin brother growing up, maybe "I'm growing into my paws." Woof! He actually said he loves every minute of the sex-objectification. Smart man!

H Gerald-McCullouchIn and Out with Gerald McCullouch.

Gerald McCullouch told me he was against outing in the media, but it was hard to concentrate on his views because he's the ultimate silver daddy. Is that shallow of me? Sue me...it was a long night.

J Steve-GrandSteve Grand is the best invention since power bars.

My buddy Steve Grand, who was just dotting the Is and crossing the Ts on that restraining order against me (I've seen him like five times recently!) was in great spirits. As an honoroee as well as a performer, he had a huge grin on his face and was the night's classically best-dressed man. We all know he had a rough coming out (his parents discovered his Internet chats at 13), but he said his favorite coming-out experiences were when friends said it "doesn't matter."

Steve also said his advice for musicians thinking of coming out is: Come out. He argues that you can always find your own audience these days, with advances in social media.

Next up was the central cast of HBO's new series (January!) called Looking. The show is about three gay men in San Francisco, and has been described as having a post-Sex and the City vibe. It's directed by the man who brought us the thoughtful, sexy Weekend, so I expect big things. (A  trailer shown later looked promising.)

K Murray-BartlettLet's hope Murray Bartlett is Looking's "Samantha."

The first guy I got was Murray Bartlett. Hello! What a handsome devil. He used to be on a soap, so he has that impossible handsome quality, yet now he's on an edgy series so...guilt-free crushing! Murray was tickled when I challenged him to say something that would make me have to watch Looking. "Well, I hope it's gonna be really good," he laughed. "It's not like a huge, dramatic set-up. But what's different about it is it's a very real, raw look at these characters who just happen to be gay." His own coming-out was easy as pie...his mom asked him if he might be gay when he was a youngster, so all he had to do was say, "Yes."

L Frankie-Alvarez

Castmate Frankie Alvarez, the straight dude in the trio, agreed with Murray's Looking assessment, saying it's very realistically shot, a slice of (gay) life and not about "rich people's problems." Well, that's very post-Sex and the City.

M Jonathan-GroffMy finest journlaistic moment is to report that Jonathan Groff is very good-Looking.

At this point, I was impatienty waiting for Jonathan Groff, the series star, and one of two people set to walk the carpet that I had to have. (The other being Wentworth Miller, who never showed.) A sweet PR was trying to get me to talk real quick to Charli XCX, even just about her outfit, but I had to firmly decline because I've been in situations before where I needed a star and lost them because of an ongoing interview. She really pushed and I just had to say no way. I felt bad because I'm normally  happy to speak to everyone. I later saw Charli's "I Don't Care" performance and wished I could have gotten her somehow earlier or later.

But it was all about The Groff! First, he is so cute in pictures, but in person, he is like a perfect human—gorgeous hair, mesmerizing eyes and a hot body. Plus, he exudes openness in a way that's not dissimilar to Steve Grand. He just seems very sweet, and was kind enough to answer three quick questions where I had been asked to keep it to one. (Sorry, cute publicist.)

"I would say go for it!" was Jonathan's reply when I asked him about what he'd say to actors considering coming out:

What's interesting about the night's carpet for me is how many of the actors told me they were not behind the media writing about stars being gay until the stars come out on their own, and how many of the younger people told me they think we're already at, or will soon be at, a place where even having to say someone is gay is old-fashioned and unnecessary. At the Out party, mind you. I really think that's wishful thinking. We seem pretty far from that day, still. In some ways it's good (being gay shouldn't be a non-issue any more than being a woman is), and in others it's just that I don't think we're there. We're more there on the coasts than in the homes in Middle America, which we tend to forget.

N Debbie-HarryIt's okay, Deb...I wouldn't speak to me, either.

Debbie Harry had earlier snuck right behind the press line (bumping into me), but she returned to walk the carpet. I wasn't a fan of her teased 'do, nor was I a fan of the old-school directive that she would only do the biggest media (the ones like Extra, who won't even run the Debbie Harrys of the world) and sk ip the blogs and smaller outlets (who will).

Left the carpet once it was made clear to me that Miller wasn't coming, but then it was time to duke it out with security, who insisted press leave (I was press but also a guest, and my own guest was in the building so...no). I did manage to say hello to the wonderfully talented and nice Frankie Grande, who was talking to Groff...and that's how I scored my pic-with. Thank you, Frankie. And thank you, Jonathan. Two Glee stars in a week!

Groff-MattA co-worker said, "Get off of my man!" so I pointed out he was actually on me...

The upstairs was packed, so we made our way around and own, grabbing Kenneth and his partner along the way and running into various outlebrities.

Downstairs was way less crowded (even with a Buick parked in the middle of the place...they were a sponsor). I missed most of the performances (I could only hear Steve Grand's set while interviewing on the carpet, boo), but then had to endure The Dolls (they weren't for me).

The evening's brief program itself was emceed by Michael Urie, who did a bang-up job considering people had a hell of a time getting out on the stage when summoned.

2 Janet MockJanet Mock brought Laverne Cox out.

Laverne Cox (Orange is the New Black), who's come to every gay event I've ever been to, was given an award. Her excitement was palpable, as was the excitement of the female admirer who pushed in front of everyone to record it...and then stayed in front of everyone. Good for Laverne! A hot and nice chick who is finally getting some much-deserved attention.

3 Laverne CoxI love that a gay magazine finally figured out how to give Cox an award.

For me, the highlight of the program was when Edie Windsor was introduced by David Mixner, who stressed that she's the one person he's ever met who has truly made an enormous social change all on her own. And he's met Bobby Kennedy, y'all. Edie was moved by the rounds of applause, thanking the gay community and giving us a history lesson about how Stonewall brought gays and lesbians together, AIDS brought us together and now marriage has done the same.

4 Edie WindsorThe most important Windsor since that ginger Harry.

I only wish I'd gotten her on the carpet, but she was elusive and pretended not to know I was trying to call her over. More power to her for skipping a blog called "Boy Culture."

Jim Parsons had sent a video message of heartfelt thanks for being honored, so when the Looking boys came out to present an award to director Lee Daniels (whom I knew was also not there), it seemed strange. Something was up. Turns out they were there to introduce the person who would accept on Lee's behalf: Mariah Carey.

6 Jonathan Groff5 Cast of LookingThe guys were really Looking out for Mariah...announcing her age and name-checking her ex-Svengali!

I'd never been in the same room with Mariah, so this was gonna be fun, I thought. The room erupted and everyone rushed forward when her name was mentioned, but then she didn't come out for like 10 minutes! The guys stalled, with Alvarez cheekily reading from her Wikipedia (including her birth year—the same as Stonewall!—and the important of Tommy Mottola in her career, ouch).

O Mariah-Carey-OUT-100The gloved one.

When Bartlett referenced Glitter, I wondered if she'd ever show up (she later referenced it herself, oddly). But she did, and was doing her usual Mae West vamping, fanning herself. Her best line was:

"I'm a straight girl...I don't really know why they asked me to be here...but my boobs have been out for years!"

She was only there a couple of minutes, but it had really dropped a bomb on the place, excitement-wise. Everyone was drunk and dancing soon after, and were warmly appreciative (if not at the Carey level) when Debbie Harry emerged to do four songs—two new and two old ("Call Me" and "Heart of Glass.")

8 Debbie Harry 9 Debbie HarryDebbie's pink backlighting reminded me of her best solo video, "Sweet and Low."

It ain't over until the blonde lady sings...so once she sang, and once I congraulated Out's dapper editor Aaron Hicklin, we were Out the door. Fun night Out.

The Pros and the Cons of Porn
15.11.2013 , The Closet Professor


I’ll admit I’ve indulged in porn (magazines/videos/Internet) ever since I reached puberty and discovered where Dad hid his stash.  I’d sneak a look at my father’s magazines and VCR tapes (which sadly enough, were all straight porn). Then again, what would you really expect from your Dad? It was watching that first porn that I discovered how to masturbate, and when I came, it freaked me out.  I had not idea what had happened, but I knew I liked it.  I remember my penis seeming to be puffy afterwards.  Do you remember your first experience masturbating?

This post is not about my first time masturbating, but about the pros and cons of pornography.  I began to think more about this as I have written this week's posts, but especially because of Adon's comment on my Sunday post:
I hear a lot from many sources of what a "problem" porn is. Is it a problem? Personally I see no harm in it except the guilt and shame that many people of faith connect to it.
So I decide to write about my experience with porn and a bit about its pros and cons.  I’d check out the guys in magazines and videos and imagine what it’d be like for me to be with these guys.  More importantly, what it would be like to snuggle up next to them at the end of the day, to fall gently off to sleep with my arms wrapped around one or resting safely and peacefully in the guy’s own arms.  I've always wanted a strong man to wrap me up in his arms and make me the comfort that comes with that.  Such was my “release from my real life”; one that just didn’t fit in with the dreams and hopes I had for myself. It was the only thing I felt I could do to create some version of the future I wanted; it wasn’t real but it was at least more in line with what I was feeling as a post-pubescent teenager and later on, as a young man, even though I did not yet understand that I was gay.

I grew up in a small rural town.  I didn't know any gay people, and nothing was ever said nicely about the ones they mentioned.  It was a scary feeling.  I remember looking at International Male and Undergear catalogs, not to mention the underwear section of the Sears Wishbook, my true wish had nothing to do with all of the other goodies in the catalog.  When my mother questioned me, three or four times between ages 18 and 22, I denied that I was gay.  Finally, when I was about 23, she confronted me about it again, and I admitted to her that I was gay.  The aftermath was not pretty, but again, I'm off subject.

With regards to porn, I began my journey along that road somewhere along about 12-to-14 years of age. It was likely to have been when my testosterone kicked in and I began masturbating every chance I got. I couldn't steal my dad's porn, but I do remember having the movie "Bachelor Party" on VHS and really enjoying the scenes when the women went to see the male strippers.

But, what effect did watching porn have on me, as a teen and as an adult? For instance, I sometimes wonder if there’s an upside to looking at or watching porn and likewise, I wonder if there’s a downside (a real danger to indulging in the practice). For me it was a question of getting caught and feeling guilt of a religious nature.  It isn’t about going to Heaven or Hell, yet more of was certain bad things that were happening in my life were because I indulged in porn.  Was God punishing me?  Through a lot of prayer and meditation, the same technique I used to come to terms with my homosexuality, I came to the decision to believe what my preacher had always preached: God does not punish us for sins in this life, but in the next.  Read my post from Sunday to understand my full stance on the issue of the porn and sin.

I can say that when I first began looking at porn it was all about escaping the “traditional” reality that was expected of me in the face of the very “non-traditional” existence I believed/believe I was meant to live.  Though I also understood that porn was a fantasy.  Men that good-looking and well-endowed rarely existed in the real world.  The real question, I suppose is just how much are someone chooses to FOCUS on pornography? Are those fantasies (while indulging in porn) preventing you from keeping your feet firmly planted in the real world? Are you spending so much time “living a fantasy life, through porn” that your own REAL life is passing by, unnoticed and unappreciated?

So I turned to porn when I became horny, or sometimes stressed, and I would watch a video or look at pictures, masturbate and then I felt better.  However, it never ruled my life.  I never allowed it to do so.

Most of us know that porn is a cheap imitation of the real thing.  Real sex can be wonderful, and is most of the time, though sex is not always good.  Sometimes we need the fantasy of porn, where the sex always looks perfect.  The reality of porn is that the actors work very hard (no pun intended) and have long days.  Porn actors constantly discuss in interviews that it is never as easy as it looks.  However, some do porn because they want to give others pleasure; most do porn for the money.  We usually don't know what particularly the need the money for: college, a car, debts, drugs, etc.  I tend to dislike the studios who are known to prey on drug addicts.  When there is a vinous drug abuse, it's a major turn off to me.

So what effect does watching porn have on your life?

Porn is a controversial subject. Some people feel that pornography damages society or is unhealthy, others believe it may actually be beneficial. Many studies have been done on the effects of porn, for example, whether it causes increased violence against women (it doesn’t) or leads to unrealistic expectations (it can in certain people). This is a discussion about the ways porn is good or bad, and the situations in which it can be beneficial or harmful.

The easy access afforded by the massive boom in online porn led many of us to our first experiences with it at a young and curious age. It showed us what a naked body looks like up close and what sex actually is. It introduced us to a world of sex acts, kinks, and fetishes, some of it beyond our imaginations. As we moved beyond curiosity, it provided us a tool to help with arousal and masturbation. Visual stimulation can be very sexually arousing of itself, and it saves you from having to do the fantasizing on your own.

For the majority of people, there is nothing wrong with porn. With experience, most of us learn that sex isn’t always or even usually like it’s portrayed in porn. Every naked body looks different, we don’t all react and respond in the same ways, we choose which sexual acts we enjoy taking part in, and we learn that each interaction and partner differs from the last.

It is important to realize that porn is not reality. It uses actors and it follows a script. Yes, some porn is more realistic than others, and amateur porn or videos shot by good quality production companies can seem very realistic, but most pornography depicts something very different from the sex you would have with a partner. If most of your exposure to sexuality has been from from the scenes you’ve seen in porn, it may be a letdown when you finally get a chance to have sex with someone if you’ve let that shape your expectations.

For this reason, experts in the field are stressing how important it is for parents to talk to their kids about porn, especially if they know their child is watching it. There is a drive for it to be part of high school sex-education curriculum, but anti-porn activists are fighting to prevent this from being discussed in classrooms.  As long as we understand the realities of porn, I don't see a problem with it as long as it has it's proper place in our sexual explorations.

Some people, especially those with a history of problems with addiction, can become addicted to porn. If your porn watching negatively affects your life, you may have a problem. If you cancel or miss plans with others, fall behind in work because of porn, or anything else like that, it’s a problem. If your porn habit prevents you from being sexually intimate with your partner, that’s a problem too.

Masturbation, with or without porn, is a normal and healthy activity even when you’re in a relationship, but if you’d rather watch porn than be sexual with a partner, you should evaluate the situation. Have you lost your attraction for your partner, or do you have a pornography addiction problem?

If the porn you watch makes you uncomfortable (due to its subject matter) or if it’s leading you to act differently with your partner(s), it may be a good idea to switch up the porn you’re watching or even take a short break from porn altogether.

Porn should be a positive and healthy experience that provides an escape from reality, gets you aroused and ready for sexual stimulation, and can give you ideas to incorporate into your personal sex life. If you remember that it isn’t reality and that your partner still likes you, there should be no negative effects of watching porn.


P.S. THE GUY IN THE PHOTO LOOKS AMAZINGLY LIKE THE GUY I HAD A CRUSH ON IN HIGH SCHOOL WHO WAS MY MOST OFTEN MASTURBATORY FANTASY IN MY TEEN YEARS.
Broke Straight Boys 13
15.11.2013 , Boy-Bg Video
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Broke Straight Boys 13 brings you 8 smoking hot scenes full of broke straight guys going gay for pay!
Summer 1981: Adam and I Bunk Together
15.11.2013 , Boomer Beefcake and Bonding
During my junior year at Augustana College, I knew lots of guys who liked guys at night, in the dark, but they always went back to their chants of "girls! girls! girls!" in the morning.  I kept looking for guys who were gay, who continued to dream of masculine smiles in the daytime.  They were impossible to find; Corey, who wanted to teach me to fly; Hal, who challenged me to a dating contest; Bruce, who didn't like to be called gay -- all were straight, or claimed to be.

What about Adam Horowitz, manager of the Student Union bookstore?  He never dated girls; when pressed, he claimed to be in love with an icy Hitchcockian blonde, but gave no more details.  He never dated boys, either.  We had a "date" in March 1981, with a thwarted kiss under the Bell Tower,  but that was the only time I saw him away from his counter in the bookstore.

Until the summer of 1981,  when the Film Club took a road trip to Madison, Wisconsin, about 3 hours away, for an Italian Film Festival, two days of Fellini, Antonioni, Pasolini, and Zeffirelli. Though Adam wasn’t a member, not even a student, he asked if he could tag along. The president gave her eager consent, obviously planning an aggressive seduction – she was a senior, with less than a year until graduation, and landing a mature “older man” who owned his own business would trump even a Fratboy.  But Adam ignored her and spent all of his time with me.

On Saturday night, after Pasolini’s Canterbury Tales, we had a late dinner at a Mexican restaurant called Casa de Lara, and then the others suggested that we drop into the nearby Whiskey River Saloon for a beer – but I wasn’t 21 yet, and besides, I was still too Nazarene to stomach such places. As I weighed my choices, enduring the disgusting hospital smell of a saloon or being abandoned on the street, Adam wrapped a paternal arm around my shoulders and pushed us off into the night.

We strolled jauntily through the crowds on State Street, talking of Pasolini and then of  A Many Colored Land by Julian May, which had just been published to delirious acclaim among science fiction fans. We browsed through a record store and a hippie bookstore, where I bought a copy of Allen Ginsburg’s long beat poem Howl.

When we finally arrived at the hotel room that four of us were sharing,  Adam did endless sit-ups in his underwear while I lay atop his bed, watching.

"How should we arrange this?" I asked.

"What?"

"The...um...sleeping arrangements."  My face began to burn. "Um...maybe we should bunk together.  Then Bruce and Lars won't wake us up when they come in.”

“They’ll probably be back any minute, though."

“It'll be easier," I insisted.

 "I guess."  We climbed into bed.  Adam pulled the covers up only as far as his waist, so if I glanced casually over I could see his belly, hard and flat and xylophone-ribbed, his thick chest just brushed with hair, his heavy, blue-veined arms and shoulders. He continued to talk, desperately, of underground comix and Scrooge McDuck and Isaac Asimov and The Prisoner, while I waited, so close that I could feel the heat from his skin.

"Did you know that Allen Ginsberg was gay?"  I interrupted.

Adam turned on his side, so he was facing away from me.  "No, I didn't.  Well, goodnight."  He turned off the light.  And, a moment later, Bruce and Lars arrived, rowdy and joking.

Adam permitted some touching and fondling during the night, but attempting anything more got me rudely shoved away.  I couldn't tell if Adam was inhibited because Bruce and Lars were in the next bed, because I wasn't his type, or because he was straight.  And next day, after Pasolini's Arabian Nights, we drove back to Rock Island.

Later in the summer, Adam went to a comic book convention in Chicago, where he met and fell in love with a graduate student in art history from Ohio State University.  He returned to pack some things and lock up his bookstore -- the college later sold the stock cheap and turned it into a tv lounge -- and move to Columbus, without ever naming his...girlfriend?  boyfriend?  or using a pronoun.  I got one postcard, stating how deliriously happy he was.  And then silence.

Internet research reveals that Adam is now a newspaper editor in a small town in the Midwest, still deeply involved in comic book fandom, and...gay, straight, bi?  Asexual?  I still don't know. 

People of our generation were trained to keep silent.
I Got 99 Problems, But Being Bi Ain’t One (Except It Sort of Is)
15.11.2013 , Manhunt Daily

A few days ago, I attended a benefit fundraiser for a regional LGBT center. The keynote speaker was a well-spoken, polished, poised young woman who identified as a pansexual. When she mentioned her sexual identity, the crowd of several hundred began to smile and murmur a bit, and it was obvious that even within this crowd of progressive rich folks, the term “pansexual” was not immediately understood.

Although many people did not understand the specifics of this girl’s life, her bravery and courage to be herself was something that seemed to be unanimously understood, as evidenced by the rapturous applause and the standing ovation that she deservedly received. There was a gentleman behind me, who must have been at least 75 years old, who beamed and said “This is the future!” with great pride.

Throughout the evening, many letters of the LGBTQ acronym were represented. We heard stories from people who have been, for decades, fighting for acceptance, inclusion, and equality for themselves and/or for their friends. The entire evening was like an aerobics video – we would stand, we would clap, we would toast the air, and deservedly so; the people being honored were true pioneers who have done invaluable work for the community. And I have absolutely no interest in diminishing or minimizing that great work.

It would seem, though, that one letter from the LGBTQ alphabet soup is often misunderstood and misrepresented, and more often completely overlooked – not just at this one, isolated event, but in our greater society.

Bisexual Pride

I am a happily out bisexual man, but in my experience, you might as well call our community LGTQ, because to most people (both straight and queer) bisexuality is fake. Or, at best, bisexuality is a means to an end – you come out as bisexual to ease the transition for your friends and family, and then you just end up liking the same sex.

Nobody ever talked about bisexuality when I was growing up. It was assumed that you were straight unless you were proven guilty, and there was absolutely no discussion about anything existing in that vague in-between. There were no bisexual men to be seen. Ever. Anywhere. It was as if it never existed.

Women were allowed to be on the spectrum, even if it was temporary and spurred on by alcohol – they were just having fun! They were just exploring! Plus, it’s okay, since two women going to town on each other is a fantasy for so many straight men. But a bisexual guy who puts his mouth on another cock? The spectrum might as well have not existed. You are suddenly among the gayest men who have ever lived.

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Growing up, I was a triple-sport athlete in high school and had my pick of women. I hooked up with many of them, quite happily and satisfyingly, wherever I could – at parties, in the boiler room after basketball practice. And while my friends, teammates, and family never questioned my straightness, I did.

I knew that I wasn’t like most of my male peers, because I also had crushes on some of them. I never acted on them, but they persisted. After college, I decided to explore my non-heterosexual interests, and although they were almost exclusively hookups, they were still fulfilling in a new, interesting and fun way. My most recent relationship was an 18-month relationship with a woman, with whom I was very much in authentic love.

Now, I’m single, and happily receptive to whatever life has to offer me. I had been on Manhunt before I was in my last relationship, and now, I am on it again. I cannot possibly count the number of times I’ve been sent nasty, accusatory, oddly confrontational or judgmental messages – from perfect strangers, of course – denouncing my bisexual identity.

I’ve had a handful of guys say things like “You’re really hot, and I’d love to play. Call me when you’re gay.” On one level, this is hurtful, but above all, this response is amazingly telling of the perception of bisexuality and the stigma that continues to exist.

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Just last week, Mackey Friedman from the University of Pittsburgh Graduate School of Public Health released findings from a study about the perception of bisexuality in America. The study showed that straight men are three times more likely to delegitimize bisexuality, and respondents who identified as gay or lesbian showed only slightly more positive reactions to bisexuality.

The study concluded that “even within the sexual minority community, bisexuals face profound stigma… and male bisexuals likely suffer more stigma than female bisexuals.” The effects of this stigma are pretty obvious, and might sound familiar to LGTQ people – “when a bisexual person perceives that his or her sexual orientation is not recognized by peers, it can cause the person to feel socially isolated and unable to talk openly with friends, family and school mates.”

So, here’s my point, to those of you who identify as gay, lesbian or anything else outside of the heterosexual sphere: we are a part of your community. The isolation that you experienced when you felt like you couldn’t come out is the same isolation that many LGTQ people enforce on us. When you felt misunderstood by your friends and family, the people who were supposed to care for you and support you, it is the same misunderstanding that you impose on many bisexual people.

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The LGBTQ community has experienced the pain and the hurt that comes with not only a lack of understanding, but a complete lack of interest in understanding. Therefore, it is doubly hurtful when that same pain and hurt comes not just from the outside world, but from within our community. And it really needs to stop.

I don’t intend to point my bisexual fingers at every living gay person and accuse them of being close-minded. Without question, there definitely have been people who have been supportive, even if they don’t understand.

But from my perspective, the greater LGBTQ community has so many large fish to fry right now (umm, do you even know what’s happening in Russia right now?), and if we continue to marginalize a particular group within our group, we can never be unified, and we will never see true progress.

- Bryan

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Exclusive Interview With Randy Blue Model Sean Zevran
13.11.2013 , Manhunt Daily

Sean Zevran is one of the hottest models in Randy Blue‘s stable of stallions. Look at him! Those chiseled good looks. That huge cock. An ass that could crack walnuts. Whether he’s plowing or getting plowed, Sean gives 110% in every scene. (And if you’ve seen any of Randy Blue‘s “Behind the Scenes” videos, you’ll also catch a glimpse of his wry sense of humor.)

Scroll on down to find out what Sean says about what turns him on, his ultimate fantasy scene, and how he got into the adult industry.

- Karsh

Photo credit: Randy Blue

Read Manhunt Daily‘s exclusive interview with Sean below:

Sean Zevran by JR Shoot

Sean, thanks so much for interviewing with us. Let’s start thing off simple. You have a diverse background. How did you first get into the adult industry, and why did you go with Randy Blue?

I had just finished taking my last final of my undergrad degree when a friend of mine—Brandon Wilde, who is also in the industry—gave me a call and told me he had submitted some photos of mine and my contact information to Randy Blue.

It caught me off guard and I laughed… But sure enough, Randy Blue contacted me that evening with a proposal to do a solo video and sign an exclusive contract with them. I told them I’d give it some thought, and after considering several factors—including the consequences of doing porn—it didn’t take long before I had made up my mind. A few weeks later, I was flying to Los Angeles to shoot my solo.

Since your debut with Randy Blue, your body has really changed and improved from scene to scene. What fuels that passion to improve? How do you stay in such great shape?

I have always been very physically active. In high school, I was a state competitor in track and field and cross country, and also, a good friend of mine and I started competing against one another toward my senior year to see who could pack on the most muscle. I stayed active in the gym throughout college and was also in the Marine Corps Reserve, so it was necessary to stay fit for the physical fitness test (on which I usually scored a 300).

Once I got into porn, the industry has a way of making one very much aware of every physical insecurity one has. So, motivated by both competitiveness and insecurities, I’ve worked my ass off (or should I say “on”) in the gym. And lately, I’ve had the desire to start competing in official competitions in physique class. Hopefully, I’ll be entering my first competition next year if I can continue at this pace. I’ve stayed fit and improved my body by working hard and adhering to a strict diet, which generally consists of eating six meals daily loaded with carbs and protein.

Sean Zevran for Randy Blue

Do your family and friends know about your gay porn career? How do they feel about it? And how does it feel when you get recognized in public?

I’m an honest, open book with everyone, and that includes my family. So, yes, my family is aware of my career in porn. I’m sure there are other things they wish I might have chosen, but they are nonetheless sincerely proud of me They know that whatever I choose to do, I will give it my all, and I am always first and foremost concerned about being a compassionate and ethical human being. Additionally, I did time in the military and have a college degree; they’re content to let a little wildness slide from time to time.

It used to be a little awkward when people recognized me, only because I wasn’t used to it, but eventually, I came to be confident in it and realized that I can make someone’s day by taking some time to introduce myself and chat with those that recognize me. That’s always a good feeling.

What’s the best part about working with Randy Blue? Besides fucking all the hot guys, I mean! How do you create that chemistry? Is it genuine, or is it acting?

The best part of working with Randy Blue is the opportunity it has provided for me insofar as traveling, meeting new people and experiencing new things. It’s allowed me to discover a lot about myself and the world, and also, to live on the edge a little.

As far as the fucking of hot guys, I’d say it’s a mix of chemistry and acting. Sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there, and so we improvise. Though, it goes without saying the hottest scenes are almost always those wherein there is strong chemistry between the two guys; or three or four, or however many.

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A lot of porn is around categories and fetishes. Being a biracial man, does this affect you? And if you could give any advice to up and coming porn stars of color, what would it be?

There are a lot fetishes in porn. It’s very interesting. It’s made me a lot more open-minded, that’s for sure.

As for being biracial, it doesn’t really affect how I perform or how I regard my role in the industry, but it seems everyone is trying to claim me—some people think I’m Latino, others try to label me black or a “man of color”. I don’t consider myself anything.

Race is ambiguous and, ultimately, irrelevant. As you know, I’m both black and white, but even if I were one or the other, those two racial labels are still quite ambiguous. If I could give any advice to upcoming porn models of color, or any upcoming models for that matter, it would be to be themselves and not place so much emphasis on race and stereotypes. What’s more relevant is personality and how a model performs.

Let’s say you have an upcoming opportunity to play out your biggest fantasy in your next scene. Describe for us what that looks like.

Oh, this is a fun question: I have several different fantasies I tend to envision, depending on my state of mind. I’m versatile and have a submissive side and a passionate side as a bottom and a top, respectively.

As a submissive bottom, I have this fantasy of being put in situations wherein I’m taken advantage of. For example, it’s hot to fantasize about being someone’s slutty rent boy, being blackmailed for sex or put into a quid pro quo situation, being date raped or going to jail for a night or two and being held down and used. Of course, these are situations that are better left as fantasies and not made realities. Plus, my ego is often too great to allow any of these things to happen, except for being a rent boy, which I have done on occasion.

As a top, my fantasies are a lot tamer. This is because I am very passionate and intimate as a top. Usually, I have a strong attraction to the boys I top. So, anything involving dates, movies, cuddling and other romantic situations are my fantasies as a top.

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Alright, let’s go into the man behind the brand. Who were you before you became Sean Zevran? And what’s Sean Zevran like when the cameras are off?

As I mentioned in the first question, immediately before my involvement in the industry, I was a college student majoring in philosophy with a minor in economics. I was also in the Marine Corps Reserve. I was one of the founding fathers of a fraternity on my college campus, as well as a member of numerous other extracurricular student organizations. And I had a lot going on even before college—I was a high school student working two and sometimes three jobs, a state competitor in track and field and cross country each year of high school, and I was class president three out of four years of high school.

All of this almost inevitably leads many to ask how I would end up in porn. The answer to that is simple: I pretty much ran myself ragged. I was so professionally driven toward the future before realizing I wasn’t a happy person. I also faced a difficult ethical conundrum regarding choosing a future as a Marine Corps officer. I completed Officer Candidates School in college and was on set to commission as an active duty lieutenant in the Corps, but I declined my commission upon graduation.

While I don’t regret any of the things I did, I needed some time to be young and stupid. I needed to take some time to live in the now. That’s pretty much the bottom line. When Randy Blue gave me that phone call, I saw an opportunity to liberate myself in a brazen manner of self-expression and defiance of social norms. I regret nothing.

To answer the second part of your question: Sean Zevran is the same on camera as he is off camera. I don’t like to pretend I’m something that I’m not. Besides, I am not very good at it. I appreciate who I am through the sum of my experiences and education and I don’t like to inhibit that. So, what you see is what you get. Most people can appreciate that.

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And I’m sure everyone wants to know this: are you single, and what kind of men do you like?

I am indeed single. Of course, realizing the physical qualities of guys that I like is easy, and any of my close friends by now can probably pick out from a mile away a guy I’m going to be physically attracted to.

Roughly, if a guy is a muscular Latino, Asian or mulatto, or just a guy with darker features, with wild haircuts and tattoos being a plus, or has some variation of these qualities, chances are I’m going to be eye-fucking him. I’m definitely not exclusive to that physical “type”, if you will, but I certainly have a higher attraction to those traits than others. Also, I’m a big legs and ass guy—I love me some muscular legs with a nice muscle ass, regardless of how the guy prefers to be sexually satisfied in the sack. He can’t be skippin’ leg day, bro.

But about personality… I’m still learning what personality traits attract me the most, but so far here are the ones I’ve figured out:

First, I’m not attracted merely to confidence, but what the military calls “command presence”. This is someone who is authoritative, tactfully takes charge of situations and inspires others to action. On the other hand, I have little patience for meekness and timidity.

Secondly, I respect those who use the most simple, straightforward solution to problems—all hail Occam’s razor. By the same token, I have no tolerance at all for people who dramatize problems. My tendency to logically analyze a situation and place it into different philosophical contexts often has me being perceived as insensitive, yet this is a quality and ability I highly value in myself and others.

Third, I’m invigorated by those who aren’t too lazy to think about complex issues, who have the capacity to understand my beliefs, and furthermore invigorated by those who can challenge my beliefs to the point where I need to suspend and reevaluate them. These are often the only people I feel emotionally comfortable opening up to and whose opinion I respect enough from whom to accept advice.

Last but not least, I’m attracted to those who do not defer to authority by virtue of authority itself and who have the fortitude to oppose moral and social norms when these norms do not serve to better our fellow human beings. I value those who dare to be creative and different, but not in a reckless way. There should be moderation between taking self-expression to the extreme and maintaining the utmost respect for other human beings.

So, there you have it. These qualities are not exclusively what I look for in a guy, but qualities that I have a natural inclination to gravitate toward.

Sean Zevran by JR Shoot

I know you haven’t been shy at all about your times growing up and being surrounded by racism in your hometown. Has doing gay porn changed your perception about gay men?

Not anymore than everyday life changes my opinion of human beings as a whole. We (human beings) are complex and cannot so easily be summarized in narrow groups. Many people, including gay men, have a tendency to label ourselves and others and look at things in a very limited way.

For example, some gay men might say, “Ugh, all gay men are horn dogs and cheaters”, but how many times have you heard women accusing straight men of the same thing? Or how many times have you heard men accusing women of things that are just as common for males?

We’re human, and understanding humanity takes a greater understanding than the labels of sexuality, gender, race or religion allow for. For a deeper analysis, I defer to psychologists, sociologists, anthropologists and all the rest of those guys.

You’re very eloquent in interviews and on Facebook. You’ve studied philosophy and economics and talk a lot about current events and politics. What do you see yourself doing after porn?

Well, Karsh, as you’ve personally known for a while, I plan to get enrolled back in school for a master’s degree, preferably in neuroscience. I am working on getting completely on top of things financially before getting back into school full-throttle, though. I eventually want to get accepted into a PhD program.

So, you could say my short-term goal is a master’s degree (unless I am accepted directly into a PhD program), followed by the long-term goal of maybe teaching and doing research in my given field. I am still not entirely certain. I am not even sure how far I wish to go in the porn industry.

Sean Zevran

Do you read any of the comments people leave online about your scenes? If you could tell those folks anything, what would it be?

Reading online comments about scenes is like reading the comments on online news articles. At best, it is only slightly amusing, and at worst, it is irritating. I no longer read the comments, so I have nothing to say about it really.

Okay, let’s make the last question fun. You have an opportunity to change your porn name to the name of your first pet and the first street you lived on as a kid. Tell the world your new porn name.

I don’t remember the very first street I lived on, but the one I do remember is called “Choctaw”. And the name of the first pet I had was a dog named “Sandy”. So I guess my new porn name is “Sandy Choctaw” or “Choctaw Sandy”, whichever ordering of the names you prefer.

Thanks for the interview, Karsh. I’m honored, and it’s always a pleasure to speak with you.

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